Being a bad dancer doesn't mean being also a disrespectful one, but on the other way
I think a good dancer should have an extra good behaviour.
Example of a bad dancer (me) behaving correctly: first night during last CITA, two women from my group are sitting, I invite one, she declines. I went back to my seat
and waited for the next song to invite the second one. Inviting the second one immediately after the first one declined would have been offending, she would have felt like a "plan B" girl.
Second example of a bad dancer (me again) behaving correctly: second night during last CITA,
one woman from my group invites me; I don't want to dance with her so I pretend I'm tired. Then this night I also declined all the other invitations
made to me by women within our group (not that I'm popular, it's just that women were vastly outnumbering men). Otherwise the first woman could have thought that I was not sincere when I replied that I was tired.
Well, here I admit that my politeness was somehow stubborn.
And finally, a good dancer behaving badly. One woman from our group, a tango teacher (well,
she's an all-dance local teacher, completely unknown outside her little town, but still...), during one CITA evening at Nino Bien
, made eye contact with a foreigner, the guy walked all the way to her, and at the last moment she noticed another foreigner she liked more (better dancer) coming near our table, took him in her arms and began to dance with him
, completely ignoring the first guy! She's not even ashamed, she kept bragging about this story even with other passengers in our back home plane. And she's a teacher! She should promote the rules of the milongas, the cabeceo, the etiquette, and so on. I told her that what she had done was the antithesis of any known tango etiquette, but it seems she's just not getting it. Her reply was "But the first guy came back later and invited me again, so where is the problem?". Well, this only proves that this gentleman had good manners.